The groundbreaking book written by Dr. Susan Weitzman after many years of research on upscale violence. It’s the first book of its kind to lift the veil of silence on abuse in families with advanced educations and higher than average incomes. [...]
Domestic violence among middle- and upper-income families has some features similar to any type of domestic abuse, but other features are unique to this group. Below are several examples.
- One partner dominates the other verbally, criticizing and belittling her, throwing her off balance or causing her to doubt her own worth and abilities.
- One partner makes all plans, neither inquiring as to the other partner’s desires nor gathering input from her.
- One partner alone sets the sexual pace, initiating all contacts and rejecting any of the other partner’s sexual approaches.
- One partner makes most of the decisions about the future and announces them to the other partner instead of including her in planning and decision-making. This partner refuses to compromise on major decisions.
- One partner is moody, making it difficult for the other partner to predict what the next encounter with him will be like.
- One partner demands control over the other partner’s contacts with friends, family, and/or finances.
- One partner publicly humiliates the other partner. This sometimes begins as “put-down” humor, but rather than apologizing, this partner urges the other partner to “Get a thicker skin!” or “Lighten up!” when she protests.
- One partner has an uncontrolled temper or un-precipitated anger at others.
- One partner is highly critical of the other partner.