The groundbreaking book written by Dr. Susan Weitzman after many years of research on upscale violence. It’s the first book of its kind to lift the veil of silence on abuse in families with advanced educations and higher than average incomes. [...]
While each situation is different, there are several important traits unique to the upscale abuser. He may exhibit some, or all, of the traits outlined below.
- The abuser believes he is “special” and “entitled” or above the law.
- The abuser tends to blame his partner for any mishap or bad feelings he may have about himself.
- He has a grandiose sense of self-importance and the kind of treatment he deserves.
- He believes in using power and leverage to “get away” with a lot, such as:
- Using his influence as leverage to keep his partner in the marriage
- Using resources to wage legal battles which are often frivolous and without merit;
- Using vicious suits to obtain custody of the children.
- The abuser is charming but interpersonally exploitative.
- The abuser is self-absorbed and lacks empathy for others.
- The abuser needs to be in control of others in every situation.
- The abuser requires excessive admiration and recognition.
- The abuser’s demands about how his partner should look or behave are not necessarily clear, and are usually impossible to meet.